Schooled at 22

Turning 22 was a blessing in disguise. At the beginning, I wasn’t very sure how the year would go. Too much emotion, too much baggage and anger still being carried. Things that should never have weighed on me, still had power over me. 

This past 366 days of my year have been life changing to say the least. I have cried, laughed, laughed and cried at the same time, I’ve loved and lost, I’ve learned lessons on loving me first before I could love another and I found joy, joy that is self generatedπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺ

I got schooled this year. My mind was literally turned inside out

πŸ‘€here are some of my life lessons πŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š

1. Your number one supporter should always and I mean ALWAYS be you. 

I always used to depend on other people’s opinions to validate myself. If someone didn’t like something about me then I automatically disliked it to. I was sand on a beach, carried from one end of the ocean to another. I can’t really tell you when the seed was planted but sometime in August, I was just done trying to appease everyone, people with different opinions of how I should be.I broke free and decided to make my own rules and damned if you don’t like me anymore…you gone

2. Comfortzones are for silly willies.

My mother can attest to this fact, every time I did my hair it was always in black braids and almost always the same style. I’ve slowly tried to come out of this habit, trying to evolve and do things I would never have done by doing things on my bucket lists(23 things before I turned 23).

I haven’t done much, but I for sure haven’t lived in the comfort zone much this year. I have approached people I would never have. I speak more on things I’m passionate about. I am trying the whole adventurous bug that is hurting my bank but such is life no?😁😁😁

3. Beauty is skin deep

I have met beautiful, jaw dropping, heart griping, makes-you-stop- and stare beautiful women. I have envied this women and late last year someone who hadn’t seen me before stopped in their track and told me I was beautiful. Looked me straight in the eye and called me beautiful.  it wasn’t the first time I heard that I was beautiful but it was the first time I listened with my heart and not just my ears. 

Lupita once said” you cant eat beauty. It cannot feed you. You can’t depend on how you look to sustain you. What actually sustains you is compassion, compassion for self and for those around you. Such beauty in flames the heart and enchants the soul. There is no shade in that beauty”

That’s the beauty I want to emulate..that’s the beauty I want to grow into. Inner beauty.

4. Celebrate your little achievements every day.

This life lesson came with the little one learning to ride his bike without training wheels. He got done with them one day. Woke up and didn’t want them on his bike no-more.though he isn’t quite as straight riding the bike he gets better everyday through consistent deliberate effort.

He falls, he picks himself and tries again. At that age he hasn’t learnt failure and it’s a beautiful site to behold. When the mind hasn’t closed itself off behind a mask of fear. 

I want to be that fearless. To look failure in the eye and say no, not yet,I’m still going to try, and try and try some more..

5. Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can.

This little life lesson came today actually. I couldn’t change the outcome of a situation that I had put myself in. I was really trying to find a way out and resorted to asking people what they thought of what I did in order to use their opinions to  formulate my own feelings towards the situation. After a while I thought, heck to the no, I looked myself in the mirror and told her to accept the change its not going to change, but in that moment find something about the situation that I liked. And I did and it was empowering. 

There are many life lessons I haven’t sharedπŸ˜›πŸ˜› but will definitely share them with y’all in my 23rd year!!

10 minutes to a year of rebirth..wool..can’t wait.
Peace love and avocado.