your only job in this world is to Be You, Do you to the best of YOUR ability..- unknown
When I woke up today, I felt as if my life was so far behind everyone else’s. People’s lives were moving forward while I was stuck in this limbo stage where I neither moved forward nor backwards. Every idea I have ever had was still in the “idea phase” while others were implementing and working towards their goals and you could see their progress. I disliked seeing them move and my life just festering and I asked God why me? Why am I still struggling with some simple things like self-esteem and confidence issues?
A few hours later it hit me and it hit me hard!!!
Why are you comparing yourself to other people when you haven’t had the same opportunities given to you?
I began to wonder, what does that mean? Don’t we all have equal opportunities in life? Don’t we all get the same education plan and learn the same things day to day?
The answer is no. See you were born into a distinctive situation that God knew you could handle and sustain. You were born to those parents who are fundamental to your story of life. Your siblings, your cousins, your friends are all mapped out on a great plan that is UNIQUE just for YOU. The school you went to, the people you met, that teacher, that driver who if you look back on today, you would see just how much they impacted your life and your story.
So why are we always in a race with others and not ourselves? Why aren’t we striving as a generation to be better than we were yesterday? Comparison of self to others is just one way of setting yourself up for failure in the BIGGEST way possible. You can’t even compare yourself to your sibling because along the way they did something you didn’t. They interacted with people you didn’t and created a mindset that even you didn’t. Even twins can’t always turn out to be the same in every single aspect.
We need to learn to compete with the demons that tell us that we aren’t good enough like person Y. We need to shush those voices of insecurity and tell them that today you did something that you couldn’t do yesterday. You did something you can be proud of tomorrow or next week or ten years from now because it changed your perception of how things operate within you.
Tomorrow won’t change if today is still spent looking at other people’s lives and wanting them. Every minute wasted today is an hour wasted tomorrow. What do I mean? The time you waste today admiring someone’s life and wanting that life will mean tomorrow you will attempt to do the same thing they did ignoring the fact that you are working to imitate someone else’s life instead of building your own . I’m not saying that it is bad to look at other people’s lives; what I mean is that gain motivation from theirs and channel it into bettering yourself. Stop wanting the same things they have and ensure that you get the things you want today.
Let’s stop wasting today, let’s use it, let’s channel the daylight and the night into building that career, that business, that relationship, that body, that mindset, that family and let’s stop using the phrase “goals” when looking into other people’s lives. Make your goals YOURS, create your space, your niche, your place in society!!!
Live your life today in the best possible way; go out and travel even if it’s just to the park or to the mall. Make each moment in your life a memory that you will never forget.
And don’t forget that your happiness is determined by your actions.
I’m hoping that on the days I am looking over my shoulder into someone else’s life I will come back here and read this in order to stop wanting their life. And I hope that you have gained something out of this in one way or another.
I wish you luck on your life journey
May peace and love and joy flow with you always